Why resistance is the enemy of personal growth
We all have dreams and ambitions. Being on this site is an indication that you’re a motivated individual who wants the most out of life. But we often face obstacles and setbacks to follow through or don’t even get started at all.
Think about starting something new and exciting you’ve tried. The first few days maybe you really feel the excitement. Then after the first few weeks, the excitement sort of dies. Why is that?
It is said we live two lives – the life we live, and the unlived dream within us. What stops us from living that unlived dream? It’s Resistance. Resistance is the enemy.
It is stopping us from living out our dreams.
Sometimes it’s labeled as procrastination. Not getting started on something important.
Other times it’s labeled as self-doubt. Believing that you’re not good enough or don’t have enough resources to follow through.
And it’s also labeled as fear. A fear of a specific outcome, a fear of a result, a fear of failure.
How do we defeat this procrastination, self-doubt, and fear?
The Evolution Mentor Audio Experience – Episode 1 – Resistance
What is it that you really want to achieve in life? Do you find yourself not following through with it? If so, what have you put aside, or what have you not been acting on? What have you put off until tomorrow?
Everyone wants to be successful. So let’s calm this whirlwind for a second and keep it simple. When you feel yourself procrastinating, doubting, not acting…
Stop. And just do the work.
Get to Work
Let’s keep it simple here. If you haven’t been acting on your intentions, get to work. Most of us have had some sort of job, part-time or full-time. At these jobs, we show up every day, we’re never late, and we always complete the work, no matter how much we like or dislike it.
Whatever you’ve been putting off, why not treat it like a full-time job. Show up and get the job done.
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Fear may be tricking you into starting, and that is fair. You may be the first in your family to do something, or you may have bad past experiences that are difficult to let go of. Regardless of the fear, the more fear you have, the more your body is telling you that you should be acting on it. Fear is an indication that your dream is meaningful to you.
So act despite the fear. Feel the fear. Dance with the fear.
Take this with a grain of salt. What if you’ve been trying something 10 times before and it hasn’t worked yet. Depending on if you’ve changed your strategy or not, trying for the 11th time won’t guarantee your success. You need to be prepared. Prepared specifically for the challenges you are planning to face. So don’t sit around waiting, or don’t go ahead with the same strategy over and over. Work hard and make something happen.
This game that you’re playing has been done by someone before in some way, don’t forget that. No one has ever done it as unique as you, but there is someone that came before that has mastered the rules and figured out the right techniques, like a roadmap or game plan. Look for others who are doing what you want to do successfully, and find out their roadmap to getting there.
Love the Game
All professionals know about this because it’s the passion that got them there. When you love what you’re doing and you have a passion for it, your focus gets clearer.
The best way to fight resistance is to work towards your goals, those goals that you love and will fight for. Look at it as your major purpose in life. Immerse yourself in it like it’s the only thing that matters.
That self-motivation will take you far.
The game is fun, and the game is relentless. The rules and conditions of the game apply to everyone. And when you love what you do, the success becomes even sweeter.
But don’t expect it to be perfect. When the unexpected happens, don’t take it personally. Play by the rules, accept the conditions and move forward. Let the game unfold as it may and adapt.
When things are going great, it’s easy to feel like it will always continue. When things are going poorly, it can seem easier to feel down and quit.
That’s resistance kicking in again.
No matter if you are in the ups or the downs, stick to it and be patient. Patience can be your best friend. Because when you focus on the process and not the end result, you stick to your plans and you’re going to get up and continue no matter what life throws at you.
It’s ok if the process is slow. It’s going to be slow, but it’s going to be totally worth it at the end.
If you’re doing the work, and you actually love it to some extent, you’re on the right path. And you’re well prepared for resistance.
Because resistance will test you with challenges along the way. It may ask you to question your intentions and face adversity.
This test is meant to reinforce your dedication to your craft. Challenges are a sign you’re doing something right. Look at them as a stepping stone to getting to where you want to be.
If you want to take control of your life, you need to take control of your consistent actions.
— Pat Mazza (@evolutionmentor) January 12, 2018
So set yourself up to win every day. Commit to your ‘Why’. And commit to the small wins, day in and day out. Small chunks will add up each day. I often think of accomplishing 1 major goal each day. That way, I will accomplish 365 very important things every year, rather than hundreds of non-important things.
Get ready, and start. See what happens.